momma6224の日記, 2018年 06月 18日

I must say I feel you.. there are days when my husband is acting weird and instead of support, I can feel irritation and maybe some kind of jealousy..? Don't know, but it hurts.. People here are amazing and without them I'll be in a different place now I assume.. Chin up my dear, you're doing great! x 

Some people will fling their arms around you and tell you how wonderful you look, and others just flick their eyes up and down over the length of you and not comment at all ha. They have to deal with their own inner demons and insecurities. You're not responsible for their feelings! Stay fabulous 😍 you're gorgeous x 

Hi you’ve come along way on your journey- and a lot of people are just jealous..keep your chin up and stay strong .. and I’m sure you’ll be a happier person in the long run .. 👍 

Try not to pay attention to those negative attitudes towards you. I know that it is not easy and I dont suggest to ignore your family members. Just to try to remind yourself what your goal is and why you do it and also what you had already avhieved! It is your life and your body and your decision. You do nothing wrong against them. I know it is not easy but try not to focus on understanding them in this issue, there is no point in it and just takes your energy. Keep it up! We are here for each other! 

keep your head up and try not to get it to you  

Toxic people are those who would rather see you fail than suceed. My mother-in-law is like that. When I quit smoking, instead of encouraging me, she would make passive aggressive comments like, "Do you really think you're going to be able to hold out?" I realized she did this because she felt threatened by the fact that I was strong enough to do something incredible. To make a long story short: my mother-in-law is no longer part of my life and good riddance to toxic people. You only live once and just because someone is your family member, it doesn't give them a free pass to abuse you. Keep up the good work! 👍 

Oh yes, the jealous nay-bombers, what a bunch of jackrabbits, those fake smiles, and evil sideways glares; typically siblings and other blood relatives. Then there's the significant other, little green-eyed sabotaging jelly monster. Ugh. It's eff'ed up that strangers and loose acquaintances are more supportive than family and, "close" friends. You're doing amazing! Chin up, refocus, and remember who's the boss of you. You!  

Just remember that their negativity isn't about you, it's about them and their own lack of self worth. Rather than bettering themselves, they try to keep others down. 

Sorry about your situation Momma. We are here for you!! 

Momma, Only 1.4 lbs up for a wk of casual eating..wow l hope l can claim the same thing after l come back from the Italian Fiesta, on the island called Gloucester, Mass.where l was born..leaving next wk..to see realitives, old friends and class mates..who's left anyway..Momma, lve always seen you as a Real McCoy..not an act..You're one of success stories and now in the best shape of your life..l had no idea your husband was being an ass about this, especially after boring him 5 children..he should be proud of you..l feel if you stick to your guns he'll come around.Chin Up and no frowns your doing this for you...you've come this far so finish it and people in time will see this is your way of life and they will come around for sure.Thankyou for coming into our lives on FS..l and many more people from all around Love You Dearly.💓 p.s. To make it up for my solo vacation..l'm taking Bunny to Maine..aug1st for 8days...hahaha 

Thank you all so much. Your words bring tears to my eyes and hope to my heart. I’ve always been a people pleaser—this is the first big thing I’ve done for myself in 18+ years and I feel selfish focusing on me so much. Gym/exercise time, buying organic/more expensive foods for myself, cooking meals only I will eat (I still cook for the others too) but this is different and I’m sure an adjustment for my husband. He’s a good man...I don’t want to throw him under the bus but Aguuulek described it perfectly—sometimes he’s supportive and other times I feel the irritation and maybe jealousy?? And I thought bettering myself physically would make him more attracted to me but it seems the opposite has happened. Anyways, more than you all want to know, I’m sure. Just know I love you all and couldn’t do this without you. Thank you!❤️ 

Murph! Thank you! Have so much fun on your trip—it sounds like a wonderful place to visit. I hope you got good news on your chest scan 🤞🏻 I’m sure Bunny will miss you—I’m glad you’re taking her on vacation in August! You’re the real deal too and I’m so glad you’re still on this site cheering me on. 

'And I thought bettering myself physically would make him more attracted to me but it seems the opposite has happened.' - well high five Sister, same here.. I think he might be feeling insecure. Suddenly I became more attractive and confident, others can see it and appreciate the change. But not him - as much as he is happy I'm healthier and got more energy, I'm not a couch potato anymore (well, not as much as before). Getting more compliments from strangers terrifies him as in his head he can see me walking away with a better version of him. That should be his moment to improve, but he's stuck. So the self defence mechanism fires off..  

Aguuulek ... your right in so many ways - family and friends don’t like the new person we all become from losing weight and becoming more healthier, happier and more confident .. but we can rise above it cos we’re stronger ..👍 

Girl you'd better start checking your inbox from time to time ...I sent you a story... :D 

Aguuulek—I’m so grateful I’m not the only one even though I wish you weren’t experiencing this. It hurts and makes me doubt myself. If my husband isn’t more attracted to me and impressed by the changes I’ve made, what is the point? His opinion matters most to me. Big Hugs to you! Feel free to message me anytime if you need to talk. 

Wright2018–thanks! I responded 😉 

Honey. Everyone who is close to you will not be happy for you. Even the hubby. Sometimes weight loss brings out insecurities in spouses or jealousy among love ones. Just keep doing the best for you. BeBlessed 

I'm blessed with a wife who has supported me in my efforts to be healthier, via the diabetes prevention program (year long). She has been impressed enough with my results that she is now registered into the same program. I have went from 250 in January to 209 today, with a new goal of getting to 205 (very close now). Specifically to the OP, in one of our classes, the topic was gaining the support of your friends, family and loved ones. The basic lesson was to be direct and ask for the support. I am not sure the method they suggested would work with everybody, but it will with some. Here is a link to that particular class handout: https://www.cdc.gov/diabetes/prevention/pdf/t2/Participant-Module-14_Get_Support.pdf . Good luck all! 

Lots of great comments above so all I'll add is my support and encouragement...hopefully your OH will come around to seeing your long term health and quality of life improvements being something to be proud of too.